It’s seriously like pulling teeth to get me to decide on a restaurant when I go out on the weekend.
Just ask my poor boyfriend
– I over-analyze, I change my mind, I weigh the pros and cons, I have to visualize myself tasting the food at each restaurant (Like, you think I’m kidding, but I’m not!)…
And all that stuff is great if, you know, picking a restaurant was a life or death decision. But what to wear in the morning? Or what to pack for lunch? NOT such a big deal.
Sometimes it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the opportunities and choices presented to us on a daily basis.
It feels like we are caught in a twister of swirling options and we somehow have to grasp for the right choice surrounded by this very confusing fog.
But what if we could learn to fully harness the power of our choices to grow in whichever direction
Imagine how much more time you could save in the morning alone! Those are precious minutes you could be sleeping in, amiright?
I’ve learned that powerful, dream-creating people revel in their ability to take action and make soul-filled and deliberate choices.
So today I’m excited to teach you how to develop a plan to conquer choice overwhelm once and for all. No more enie-meenie-miney-moe. If you find yourself freezing up or freaking out over the choices you need to make, these next two posts will share with you my surefire methods for making choices that resonate with your soul.
workout DVD a few years ago for Christmas. It’s been collecting dust on my shelf, (Why bother with workout DVDs when there’s millions of free workouts on
!?) but I finally decided to give it a whirl.
And let me tell you, holy moly great balls of fire! That DVD kicks my ass! I have to practice Lamaze as I try to walk down the stairs or sit on the toilet – my whole body aches with soreness.
Considering it’s called “30 Day Shred”, I imagine Jillian designed this workout to be completed in 30 consecutive days.
But that’s where I draw the line.
Call me a big loser, but when I recognize stress, I
that my body needs time to rest and recoup. Because rest plays an important role not only in our physical lives, but our mental and spiritual lives as well.
Have you had an item collecting dust on your to-do list for quite some time?
Honestly, I think there are a few items on mine that have been sitting there for weeks, maybe even months.
Sometimes you get to an item on your to-do list and it’s hard not to look like a deer caught in headlights. You stare at it. And stare at it. And you break out into a cold sweat and stare at it some more.
Because the next task on your to-do list is SO monumental, SO huge and important, that you have no idea how to make it happen.
And it’s easy to get uncomfortable and discouraged, and want to take a nap instead, or watch reruns of Full House, or any number of mindless, “filler” activities that pass the time, allowing yourself to procrastinate on your dreams.
And then, months from now, when you are
feeling stuck, you start to feel dejected because you are not seeing actual progress and your dream still feels SO FAR AWAY.
Daydreaming is nice, but living a dream feels SO MUCH BETTER.
I’ve been there my friend.
The guilt that manifests from inaction use to
me. I felt like I was wasting time, like precious time was slipping away from me every moment I spent feeling lost on how to accomplish my dreams.
And that’s when it hit me.
Every time I pull up my calendar, or add a new thing to my to-do list, I’m essentially searching for the most effective use of my TIME. I was making the decision on how I wanted to spend my MOMENTS on earth.
Time is just a series of moments.
Something can take a year to accomplish or a minute – but no matter the time frame, they are both comprised of singular moments, one after one, that continue to add up until the project is complete.
And as long as you fill each moment to the brim with inspired activity, you will start to see change.
Decades or years sound very scary sometimes. But moments – those are
We can handle moments.
In order to create the change you crave in your life, you must break down every big dream into MANAGEABLE MOMENTS.
Your friends can be a huge blessing to you and your professional success, but it takes a
of friendship to make that positive switch. Not everyone can be a friend with (BUSINESS!) benefits…
Over the past several days, we’ve been climbing up the business/friendship ladder. We learned how to navigate the oftentimes rough relationship troubles with the
, we’ve supported the scattered dreams of our
friends, and we’ve thanked the many
that keep us motivated and inspired to do our best.
But do you know the type of personal relationship that brings the MOST business success?
You can either A) Desperately try to control everything and never ask for help from others (any of my control freaks relate?? Why do we do this to ourselves?! B) Work with random people who have no sense of your vision, or C) Find people who inspire us, understand our dream language, and help us reach those goals while enjoying the process along the way.
I’ll take C – please and thank you!
And oftentimes, the people that fit the bill ALREADY EXIST in your life.
They are right in front of your nose for crying out loud!
They are your best friends!
But sometimes navigating the blurry line between personal and business relationships can be a difficult task, so in this series we are looking at the top 4 archetypes of personal to business relationships, and the best ways to transition them for professional success. We will take a look at:
Well, I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night…soooo…
Well, I didn’t have very much time to prepare…soooo…
Well, I wasn’t really invested in this idea
We dish these lines out like they are candy on Halloween.
The moment we come in contact with anything that we truly want, anything that makes us start shakin’ in our boots, anything that makes our hearts start to pound with excitement – we freak. We start to formulate the excuses that will buffer ourselves against the possibility of failure.
We can be afraid to put our name on our own work, afraid to say “This is my love, my life, my passion. THIS IS THE BEST I CAN DO AND I AM PROUD OF IT.”
Has this ever happened to you? Lord knows it used to happen to me.
Yesterday afternoon I sat down at my computer for some well-deserved Soultiply time.
I had woken up, made my smoothie, went to the gym to workout with my lovely boyfriend, (Friends at home still following the
Mind, Body & Soultiply Quest
? I hope you are ready for some healthy motivation!) showered and was ready to work.
But the moment I sat down to crank out some serious inspired writing, I felt myself coming up short. I knew what I wanted to talk about, but it felt like fatigue was barreling over me like a runaway train. My mind was spinning; I just couldn’t concentrate, let alone come up with any worthwhile or helpful ideas. So I took a nap instead, and ended up feeling crabby for the rest of the day, frustrated that I couldn’t use my scarce, uninterrupted spare time to create something wondrous and helpful for my Soultiply readers.
Sleep, rest, and relaxation just seem so secondary when it comes to the amazing work that I want to share with the world, all the goals that I want to accomplish, all the people that I want to help. Who needs all the other stuff when you have
to look forward to every day?!
But that’s where I was VERY wrong, my friends.
Because I woke up this morning and I
felt caught in a creative rut. None of the whining and guilt of last night helped remove ANY of that crap.
But this time, I embraced the feeling (instead of moping around and rejecting it) and I thought, “What can I do to get around this? What do I, Brittany Ritcher, NEED today?”
And the answer popped into my brain the very moment
that I allowed it
– I needed to enjoy some nature, go on a nice walk through the park, and take some well-deserved downtime.
And I did exactly that.
I rounded up the
“Let’s take a walk through Prospect Park!”
He had never been before and it had been 5 years since I had ventured to the area, so we packed up our things and had an impromptu, adventurous day.
We saw rolling hills, dogs splashing around in the lake, small children running through the grass and enjoying the sunshine. We both found a shady spot next to a creek to relax for an hour (seriously, it didn’t even feel like the city!) and it was exactly what the doctor ordered. I felt inspired and rejuvenated upon my return.
I think as many young professionals and burgeoning entrepreneurs might relate to, it can be hard to find a stopping point in regards to our careers.
When your success is up to you, there is ALWAYS more work to be done and never enough time to do it. Especially when you are young and devoid of family responsibility, your free time is entirely up to you and your dreams are just an arm’s length away.
I remember back when I was acting
, it was always so difficult for me to find a good stopping point, because there was always another audition that I could submit for, or more preparation that I could do for my character.
In fact, even now, the more I work on a project and feel inspired, the more new ideas I seem to come up with… I may cross off one thing from my to-do list, but I end up adding 3 more at the same time!
Trust me, these are delicious problems to have and I hope you have them too. But the real trick is finding the balance to stay on pace and keep your momentum, but without stumbling into the rut of good ole’ burnout.
Over-achievers oftentimes seem like they have it all figured out, but inside they may feel like their accomplishments are never enough.
Anyone else can relate?
Maybe you were the kid in school that none of your teachers worried about because they knew you were smart and could handle it. (You remember the days? Getting good grades because YOU wanted to, not because anyone was twisting your arm about it.) Maybe you try to express your frustration or doubts to others, but they scoff at you because they think it’s silly that someone as successful as you would have any worries about your future.
That’s a lot to handle alone. I want to give you the gift that can oftentimes be hard to give to yourself. I want you to stop, take a breath, and soak in the
feeling of accomplishment.
First, what does it truly mean to feel accomplished?
For me, it’s when I recognize that
I have made progress on something worthwhile
. It’s hard to feel accomplished when you do something that you don’t care about, or something that you think is a waste of time. No, feeling accomplished comes when you conquer (or at least make progress) on something that sits near and dear to your heart, or something that is important to you and your ability to keep doing your best.
So here are 5 of my most tried-and-true ways to tap into your sense of accomplishment in order to give yourself the power you need to keep moving forward.
You earned good grades during school. Every day you write out your goals and to-do lists with fervor and you check off each completed task with pride. Your calendar is packed full with meetings and brunches and projects galore. You are a motivational junkie – you just can’t get enough because you know there is always more out there for you to achieve.
I feel ya! In fact… I’m right there with you!
But sometimes, there is a dark side to being a high-achiever. Sometimes the fast pace can trip you up. Sometimes it’s easy to get IMPATIENT when things slow down.
We just don’t know how to handle downtime! It isn’t in our DNA. It’s such a foreign idea, that when we
have that time to ourselves, we practically go nuts.
And it’s even worse when the downtime isn’t by choice. When the downtime comes because an idea of ours isn’t working as quickly as we would like, or we aren’t getting response on our latest endeavor, or GOD-FORBID we actually failed at something and we have to go back to the drawing board. If we don’t have something to show for ourselves in record time, we become discouraged because it doesn’t fit the standards we have set for ourselves. We’ve set the bar too high.
So how do you handle the downtime without driving yourself crazy?
The secret is learning to ALLOW. That’s all there is to it.
But I know a word like “allow” sounds really fluffy and vague and very very scary to anyone who keeps a tight schedule. So I’m going to give you 5 strategies to help you delve into the nitty-gritty of what it means to allow and how you can do it