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What if your Dreams Change?

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I was that kid that used to perform made-up skits for my family in the living room when I was two years old. I said I wanted to be an movie star in my Kindergarten time capsule. And when they opened the time capsule at high school graduation, nothing had changed; my dreams of acting were still very much alive. When most boys and girls had long forgotten their aspirations of becoming an astronaut or a firefighter, I was still vehemently in love with theatre. My room was covered in Broadway paraphernalia – it looked like a gaudy souvenir shop you would find in Times Square. I loved me some classic 90’s Nickelodeon sitcom “Taina”. Acting was IT for me.

A Dreamer’s Dream

My parents were incredibly supportive. Although they would occasionally nudge me in a more stable direction, (“Why not try a career in Broadcast Journalism? You’ll still get to be on TV!”) they supported every aspect of my dream. They video recorded every performance. They paid for every acting camp, every class, every lesson. I was incredibly lucky – I had parents who told me that I could follow my dreams . I attended New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts and studied theatre for three and a half glorious years. There were ups and downs, but it expanded my mind and art in ways I never knew possible. I studied the classics, I wrote my own plays, I was surrounded by more talent and drive than I could ever imagine.

After graduation, I felt prepared and determined. I auditioned for agents, got in front of casting directors and found myself busy pursuing my lifelong dream. And for the next year, I freelanced with an agent, went on auditions, worked on indie films, web series, short films, Off-Off-Broadway theatre – anything I could get my hands on. It was every actor’s dream.

The Beginning of the End

Yet, something didn’t feel quite right.  And I knew in my gut that it wasn’t the rejection. I was used to rejection; every actor experiences it hundreds of times a year. Although each time stung in its own way, it no longer affected my resolve. No, this was something bigger. I felt like I was in a fog. Something that used to bring me so much pleasure, such a natural high that fueled my life and drive – it was gone. The feeling had disappeared and I couldn’t understand why. It was like someone turned off the music and everyone else was still dancing along, but all I heard was silence.

I remember the exact moment I fell out of love with acting. I was out of school and auditioning for a friend’s production of a show that he wrote. The atmosphere couldn’t have been more creative or relaxed – It was a recipe for acting bliss. And yet, as I was auditioning, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed with dread. It felt like I had lost a close friend – gazing at someone you used to know intimately and realizing that they might as well be a stranger to you now. I may have realized it in an instant, but it took well over 6 months to become honest with myself and realize what I had to do.

Pursuit of Happiness

Everyone tells you that you should follow your dreams – but what if your dreams change ? There is a tremendous amount of pressure applied to dreams, from society (and more importantly) from ourselves. When we confide in others about our dreams, we are held accountable to them. I was so afraid of admitting to myself and others that I no longer wanted to “become a professional actress” – I didn’t want to be viewed as a failure. But in all honesty, my dreams had merely changed . I no longer desired the end result I was working to attain – the art or the career that I had valued for so long. I knew in my heart that my real pursuit was only happiness, in all its forms – and I was no longer receiving joy from acting. And with this realization, I stumbled upon an entire life’s worth of interests, talents, and knowledge that I had never allowed myself to experience before.

The ‘Changing Dreams’ Process

Have you held a dream or belief for so long that you don’t know who you would become without it? The idea can seem very scary at first; it’s very easy to remain in an unhappy, yet comfortable situation. But if you allow yourself to be open to the idea that DREAMS CAN CHANGE – you will discover a whole new set of possibilities.

Here are some vital things to consider:


Titles only get in the way. If your dream is associated with a title, like I had long associated Brittany with the title of “actress” – get rid of it. I think I thought my head might explode if I didn’t consider myself an actor. Like, I simply would evaporate from earth the very moment I removed that title from my self-concept. But I realized, nope – I’m still a living, breathing human being! Can’t get rid of me just yet! I’m just not an actor anymore – that’s the only difference. In fact, I felt limitless! All this time I had confined myself to one thing, one idea of what I was capable of, and now I got to feel what it really meant to purely be “Brittany Ritcher” – no titles attached.

What do you find out about yourself when you remove your long held title?  That title might be “girlfriend”, “dancer”, “unemployed” – any label you have put on yourself that no longer serves or describes you or your aspirations. When I removed my title, I realized that I was way more complex than I had previously allowed myself to be. You might be surprised by what you find!



This was a biggie. The desire to change your dreams stem from wanting to move in a different direction. I have friends who are still pursuing acting and have asked me why I decided to quit. I always tell them, “It was no longer bringing me happiness. If it still brings you happiness – PURSUE IT!” Taking the risk of failing is WORTH IT if you still desire the ultimate goal. I no longer desired the end result (acting in big projects, the lifestyle associated with a successful acting career), so I switched my dream. I was very scared that people would not believe me, that they would think I was making up excuses, trying to save face from giving up on such a difficult career path. Those thoughts haunted me and they only hurt me in the long run. Ditch them! Forget what people might think – do what is best for you. I’m pursuing an equally as risky career choice (entrepreneur) as I was before, so I don’t think anyone could say I was looking to take the easy route!  I’m only concerned with taking the happy route. It’s the only route worth pursuing and you are the only one who knows what route you need to take to move forward.


This is the fun part! After you’ve ditched the title that no longer serves you, you’ve overcome the fear of the opinions of others, you now get to create your next big dream! Because out of the ashes of a changed dream is a brand new dream waiting for you to pursue. When I opened my eyes to life outside theatre and acting, I was overwhelmed by the amount of interests, hobbies and skills I had within me! In fact, I wanted to do TOO many things! It became a running joke with my friends – every time I would meet with them for brunch they would ask me what career I wanted to pursue next…and it was different every time! I was overflowing with ideas of things I wanted to accomplish and create. Expand your view of what you can do. You are no longer limited by your past endeavors. It’s a great feeling to make that switch.

Have a dream that’s no longer serving you and your future? Save yourself the heartache and use these tools to make the jump to something greater. And don’t forget to tell me about your journey and success!

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  • Jackie

    Brittany, I could not have related to this more. It’s like you put in to words everything I have been thinking about my tempestuous past with acting but have been unable to verbalize. I went through that same “fog” and “silence” that you talk about, and ultimately the same humiliation that accompanied admitting my apparent “defeat.” This shame was almost immediately followed by great relief however, which is how I knew I was finally moving in the right direction. Just having someone who went through a very similar experience is validating in itself, but the steps you give to move from a crumbled dream toward a brighter, happier future are fantastic. Can’t wait to begin applying them to my own life. Keep up the great work!

  • Andra

    I can really relate to what you are saying, but it was a much longer time coming for me. Seven and a half years ago, I walked away from great job at the peak of my career in education as a director of multiple programs at a college. After working hard to turn around a program that was in deep trouble, building new services, and even finding the “new cheese” to fund our efforts during an economic downturn–I felt unappreciated and disposable–and very unhappy!

    When my son and his wife asked me if I would consider babysitting my future grandchild, I said, “Yes, in a New York minute!” I sold my house and moved closer to them and cut my mortgage in half. I expanded my antique and craft business to supplement my income. When the baby was born, I gave my two-week notice at work. A lot of people thought I was crazy, but it was what I wanted to do.

    I’m still driving my now 11-year old car with 240k miles on it, but it still runs great and looks pretty good. And I have fun going to estate sales, auctions, flea markets, and antique malls, a well as sewing items for my online shop and craft fairs. These are the things I would have been doing for fun before, but now they help pay the bills. Most of all, though, I have been able to develop a strong bond and see my granddaughters (yes, there are two now) growing up day by day–which is priceless! I am not rich in the money sense of the word, but I am happy.

    • Brittany Ritcher

      This story make me SO HAPPY! Such an incredible living example of what it means to follow your passions and trust that happiness in the long run is worth the monetary risks and the opinions of others.

  • Andra

    And somehow the only books I ever buy are from the self-improvement section of the bookstore!

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  • Paul

    This was a great read. I’ve been so worried I’ve gone down the entrepreneur route to hopefully earn enough to live my dream, which is as a musician. But the world of being an entrepreneur and learning the workings of making a living online can take over your life. I feel like it’s become an obsession and I try hard to remember that I’m a musician at heart and I’m doing this to eventually make enough money to build my music career how I want to. But sometimes I feel I’m becoming lost in this world and letting the music dream fade out. It really consumes you when you are learning the art of becoming an entrepreneur. I just hope the music is still there. It’s been for so many years I just never Could imagine a day would come where I am not living and breathing it like I used to. It makes me sad. But I feel I need to re-discipline myself and give myself routine again with the music – aside from just doing my online work. Otherwise I will feel like I have no purpose.

    • Brittany Ritcher

      Thanks for sharing Paul – I completely know where you are coming from. But if the love of music is still inside you, it’s your duty to make it happen. Even if it’s just reconnecting with the joy that you remember it brought you. That alone can be a HUGE motivator to reconnect with your passions and set your priorities straight. Remember your REAL career and passion – everything else is just a job, a way to make money. Best of luck to you on your path!

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