Boys and Girls…I’ve just been smitten with the idea of showcasing a Sexy Soulmate Series here on the Soultiply Blog…and now it’s finally here!
Because I must admit, there is nothing I love more than talking about being in love . If you know me at all, you will know that I’m a diehard romantic through and through. I was the boy-crazy teenager growing up, the only sibling in my family who considered my latest crush a house-hold dinner conversation (my poor relatives!), and I spent a good amount of time wishing and hoping and praying that I would find my soulmate.
Through a process of trial and error (soulmates don’t always come easy!), I found my ONE and I haven’t looked back since.
Thankfully I have a very understanding and down-to-earth boyfriend, who doesn’t mind if I share all the beautiful details of our meeting and relationship here on Soultiply.
The Sexy Soulmate Series will be broken up into 4 Parts.
Part 1- Soulmate Basics (that’s this post)
Each part will be an in-depth look into the relationship process and the actionable steps you can take to create a lasting relationship. Because people don’t tell you – it’s a journey. There will be ups (and Lord knows you will remember the downs!), but it’s worth it. Once you find your soulmate, you will wonder how your soul managed to live without its other half for so long.
So let’s begin!
What IS a soulmate?
I know we throw around this term willy-nilly, but what does it really mean when you call someone your soulmate?
First, this requires you to have a solid understanding of your own soul. Many people refer to the soul in wildly different ways, but to me, your soul is the part of you that continues to grow and blossom throughout all eternity. Your body will change form throughout the years. (I don’t miss my pudgy pre-teen phase – but boy do I wish I still had my high school cheerleading legs!) Yet, your soul will always be a part of you; your everlasting BFF for your physical life and beyond! Each new lesson you experience is another chance for your soul’s growth. Ultimately, the soul IS YOU ! It’s your beautiful guidance system, the operator of all the life-saving “gut” feelings you experience everday. You know how you often refer to your heart, but you don’t literally mean the physical, pulsing organ? Well, another word for your “figurative” heart would be your “SOUL”.
So to have a soulmate, that means you have found another person (not bound by gender, identity, race, religion – the soul is blind!) who you connect to on a soul-to-soul level. Things just click with this person. They bring you joy beyond what you can put into words. You have a greater understanding of Universal, limitless love because you share your life with this person. They bring out the absolute best in you. You aren’t placing this person on a pedestal. (Although I do admit I am biased when it comes to my boyfriend – you try to say anything negative about him and you’ll have me to reckon with! Grrrr!) And you don’t make excuses for this person, or for yourself. Your souls are experiencing life together – regardless of the physical forms and circumstance around you. That’s a soulmate. It’s your other half.
You might want a soulmate, but maybe you’re not ready or interested in meeting them right now. That’s okay. There is nothing wrong with wanting to experiment, have a little fun, and explore your options.
There are MANY people in this world; you should not be in a rush to find your soulmate. Soulmates are not ticking time bombs – regardless of what your mother or grandmother might tell you at the family reunion. If you didn’t find your soulmate in school, you are not doomed to be single forever. So just rip up that long held belief right now and throw it away in your mental trashcan!
The biggest advice I can say is that you must be open to finding a soulmate in order to experience the joy of having one.
Having a soulmate requires vulnerability and trust, which can be a scary concept to give to another person. A soulmate journey is not for everyone. And only YOU will know when and if you are ready.
Can you have more than one soulmate in your lifetime?
Yes. Having a soulmate is when you know and connect with someone on a deep, soul-ular level. (Like what I did there? it’s like cellular! It’s that deep!) I say this, because you can have all types of soulmates in your life. It doesn’t matter if you are gay or straight, you can have romantic and unromantic soulmates of any gender identity. I consider some of my best girlfriends my soulmates, because they understand me in ways that many people in this world never will.
Each and every one of you (whether you have found your soulmate(s) or not), will have your own story. And it’s a story that will stick with you – the memories connected to a soulmate are everlasting. Throughout the series I will share with you my boyfriend & I’s ever-evolving story.
We just celebrated four years together last week and I can’t wait to see what the future holds. Four years is a short amount of time in the whole scheme of things, but with a soulmate relationship, time does not matter. My best girlfriend who has been my BFF for the past 7 years was someone I only spent 6 short weeks with at a high school summer camp. That just goes to show, soulmate love is deep and devoid of time.
When you think about it, our ability to love comes preprogramed! When we are born into this world, we are born out of Universal love and compassion, straight from the source. Babies are the most loving and pure individuals; as we grow older we let the outside world affect our ability to give and receive love.
You can never be too young or too old for a soulmate… or anything for that matter . I knew my boyfriend was my soulmate before we even started dating. That’s the honest to God truth, I just knew he was the one…and lucky for me he felt the same way! So don’t worry about the timing. You are not too old. You are not too young. You don’t have to validate your soulmate’s existence by how long you’ve been together. Some people have romantic relationships that they stay in for 50 years or more and they wouldn’t consider that person their soulmate. Some people have been dating for several weeks and they just KNOW they’ve found the one. I’m going to share with you everything I’ve learned over the past four years about prepping for, finding and keeping a soulmate. If you want to read an article about how to keep a soulmate for 20+ years… you’ll just have to check back with me in 2030!
That Magic Moment
And that’s the absolutely spectacular thing about it – everyone has their own timing and story! Meeting stories are my favorite. I’m always that awkward, love-struck person that adores hearing stories about how different couples meet; I find magic in the story.
My boyfriend and I met each other over a year before we even started dating. I was just a quirky theatre major and he was a super smart economics major that stumbled into my life at NYU. We met at the surprise birthday party for my best guy friend. I was so nervous; I didn’t have many friends outside of my theatre classes and I knew absolutely no one but the birthday boy at this party. It was a surprise party right after class, so I didn’t even have time to go home and change; I was still in my yucky dance clothes! I was quiet…all I did was take some pictures of the decorations. I remember seeing a guy sitting in the corner by the window. I remember him because he was wearing Nike, which is a brand that not many boys at NYU wear and it reminded me of home!
But to tell you the truth – nothing happened between us until about a year later. We didn’t even really talk that night; we were only introduced to each other as part of a group. We always joke that we should change our “meeting” story to something more exciting and romantic…but that’s the truth. But the funny thing is, he happened to end up in some of the pictures that I took that night.
I love that we have pictorial evidence of the day that we first met.
So that just goes to show, you might have already met your soulmate and you just don’t know it. You might have stared him or her right in the eye or even had a conversation with them, not even knowing what an integral part they will soon play in your life.
I wouldn’t rule out love at first sight (anything is possible), but don’t be alarmed if it is not a part of your soulmate story.
Every story is different, but that doesn’t mean it is out of your control. Quite the opposite! There are crucial elements that you can implement that will set the odds in your favor. My boyfriend and I may have met accidentally, but discovering him as my soulmate was NOT an accident. The Sexy Soulmate Series will show you the actionable steps that allow you to align your intentions and actions with the type of relationship that you desire.
Here’s some Soulmate Homework…
Do you know what the most important part of a soulmate relationship is? It’s YOU. You need to make sure you are ready and prepared for a soulmate to enter your life before ANYTHING else can happen.
UPDATE: Check out Part 2 of the Sexy Soulmate Series to find out how you can make sure that you are prepped and ready to embark on a soulmate journey filled with limitless love! Also, I suggest checking out this post about 5 tricks you can use to get out of your own way. Use these tricks as soulmate “homework” and when paired with the tips in Part Two of the Sexy Soulmate Series…you will be even closer to starting your own soulmate journey. Once you are ready to move on…find Mrs. or Mr. Right by living and breathing the strategies discussed in Part Three of the Series: Finding a Soulmate . Already found your special someone? Part Four of the Series: Enjoying & Keeping a Soulmate will help you keep the spark alive for many years to come.
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