It’s seriously like pulling teeth to get me to decide on a restaurant when I go out on the weekend.
Just ask my poor boyfriend
– I over-analyze, I change my mind, I weigh the pros and cons, I have to visualize myself tasting the food at each restaurant (Like, you think I’m kidding, but I’m not!)…
And all that stuff is great if, you know, picking a restaurant was a life or death decision. But what to wear in the morning? Or what to pack for lunch? NOT such a big deal.
Sometimes it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the opportunities and choices presented to us on a daily basis.
It feels like we are caught in a twister of swirling options and we somehow have to grasp for the right choice surrounded by this very confusing fog.
But what if we could learn to fully harness the power of our choices to grow in whichever direction
Imagine how much more time you could save in the morning alone! Those are precious minutes you could be sleeping in, amiright?
I’ve learned that powerful, dream-creating people revel in their ability to take action and make soul-filled and deliberate choices.
So today I’m excited to teach you how to develop a plan to conquer choice overwhelm once and for all. No more enie-meenie-miney-moe. If you find yourself freezing up or freaking out over the choices you need to make, these next two posts will share with you my surefire methods for making choices that resonate with your soul.
Sometimes us drama queens can get SO caught up in our negative thoughts, that we end up making life harder for ourselves in the process. You feel like ALL you can do is complain, moan and worry about something, only to realize that the simple solution was right in front of your nose the entire time.
The same exact thing can happen to the role that
plays in our lives.
We all want to be happy, right? The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong goal, and many of us would do just about anything to get a glimpse of it.
But that’s the thing – the “pursuit of happiness” isn’t a pursuit at all! I challenge you to retreat from happiness, starting today.
Because Happiness has been in front of your nose this entire time.
We seek to share it with others, we relish in it, we are made of it, and we want more of it. To give and receive love – it’s the best feeling in the world.
But what does love
to you? How do you feel it; how do you show it?
For me, it’s the act of giving and receiving
. I picture it like this: Remember when you were a kid and you would spin your straw REALLY FAST in your chocolate milk until you created a mini tornado in your cup? Love is just like that. It’s giving and receiving in a continuous circle, until you get so caught up in it, that you BECOME it. You realize that you ARE love; A tornado of pure, positive energy.
That idea is the exact inspiration behind the Soultiply logo. A sacred circle. Giving and receiving all wrapped into one.
I just love that idea!
But I find this interesting…when most people are asked,
“What do you love?”
oftentimes they name only
I love my mother.
I love my brand new puppy.
I love my house.
We know the miraculous power of love, that’s a given. So why don’t we automatically extend these feelings to our non-physical ideas and beliefs in just the same way? Why don’t we make more of an effort to give love to our dreams or to our obstacles? What if we loved the things that don’t yet exist with just as much passion as we do our family and friends?
What would become possible?
More often than not, we do absolutely everything we can in order to avoid it.
Then how does it always seem to rear its ugly little head in so many different aspects of our lives? Our body & health, our romantic relationships, our career, our family life – it appears just about everywhere, like an unwelcomed wedding crasher here to ruin our big day. Pain can kill dreams, squash goals, and ruin our will to live productive, happy lives.
So the question is, how can we minimize our pain?
This very question was the main focus of Soultiply’s most recent Monthly Mantra.
The purpose of the monthly mantra series is to supply our readers with a go-to positive thought to guide the entire month.
But seriously, what a thought! You are NOT your pain. It can be hard to comprehend, right? Because we
to remember pain. It just soaks into our memories. And when it’s currently present in our lives, it is all- consuming.
But the key thing is: it doesn’t have to be.
After a month long venture into the world of this miserable feeling, I learned the
by looking at the bright side of pain.
Yesterday afternoon I sat down at my computer for some well-deserved Soultiply time.
I had woken up, made my smoothie, went to the gym to workout with my lovely boyfriend, (Friends at home still following the
Mind, Body & Soultiply Quest
? I hope you are ready for some healthy motivation!) showered and was ready to work.
But the moment I sat down to crank out some serious inspired writing, I felt myself coming up short. I knew what I wanted to talk about, but it felt like fatigue was barreling over me like a runaway train. My mind was spinning; I just couldn’t concentrate, let alone come up with any worthwhile or helpful ideas. So I took a nap instead, and ended up feeling crabby for the rest of the day, frustrated that I couldn’t use my scarce, uninterrupted spare time to create something wondrous and helpful for my Soultiply readers.
Sleep, rest, and relaxation just seem so secondary when it comes to the amazing work that I want to share with the world, all the goals that I want to accomplish, all the people that I want to help. Who needs all the other stuff when you have
to look forward to every day?!
But that’s where I was VERY wrong, my friends.
Because I woke up this morning and I
felt caught in a creative rut. None of the whining and guilt of last night helped remove ANY of that crap.
But this time, I embraced the feeling (instead of moping around and rejecting it) and I thought, “What can I do to get around this? What do I, Brittany Ritcher, NEED today?”
And the answer popped into my brain the very moment
that I allowed it
– I needed to enjoy some nature, go on a nice walk through the park, and take some well-deserved downtime.
And I did exactly that.
I rounded up the
“Let’s take a walk through Prospect Park!”
He had never been before and it had been 5 years since I had ventured to the area, so we packed up our things and had an impromptu, adventurous day.
We saw rolling hills, dogs splashing around in the lake, small children running through the grass and enjoying the sunshine. We both found a shady spot next to a creek to relax for an hour (seriously, it didn’t even feel like the city!) and it was exactly what the doctor ordered. I felt inspired and rejuvenated upon my return.
I think as many young professionals and burgeoning entrepreneurs might relate to, it can be hard to find a stopping point in regards to our careers.
When your success is up to you, there is ALWAYS more work to be done and never enough time to do it. Especially when you are young and devoid of family responsibility, your free time is entirely up to you and your dreams are just an arm’s length away.
I remember back when I was acting
, it was always so difficult for me to find a good stopping point, because there was always another audition that I could submit for, or more preparation that I could do for my character.
In fact, even now, the more I work on a project and feel inspired, the more new ideas I seem to come up with… I may cross off one thing from my to-do list, but I end up adding 3 more at the same time!
Trust me, these are delicious problems to have and I hope you have them too. But the real trick is finding the balance to stay on pace and keep your momentum, but without stumbling into the rut of good ole’ burnout.
Over-achievers oftentimes seem like they have it all figured out, but inside they may feel like their accomplishments are never enough.
Anyone else can relate?
Maybe you were the kid in school that none of your teachers worried about because they knew you were smart and could handle it. (You remember the days? Getting good grades because YOU wanted to, not because anyone was twisting your arm about it.) Maybe you try to express your frustration or doubts to others, but they scoff at you because they think it’s silly that someone as successful as you would have any worries about your future.
That’s a lot to handle alone. I want to give you the gift that can oftentimes be hard to give to yourself. I want you to stop, take a breath, and soak in the
feeling of accomplishment.
First, what does it truly mean to feel accomplished?
For me, it’s when I recognize that
I have made progress on something worthwhile
. It’s hard to feel accomplished when you do something that you don’t care about, or something that you think is a waste of time. No, feeling accomplished comes when you conquer (or at least make progress) on something that sits near and dear to your heart, or something that is important to you and your ability to keep doing your best.
So here are 5 of my most tried-and-true ways to tap into your sense of accomplishment in order to give yourself the power you need to keep moving forward.
Do you ever look back on your schooling and think, “Now why in the world did they not offer a class on that?!”
Where was the elective on Time Management? I know I could have used a few lessons about Healing from Heartbreak. And most of all, there should have been a class about effective communication. Because Lord knows we use that skill EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Seriously, when are we NOT communicating? Sometimes through our actions, mostly through our words…communication drives nearly everything we do. It would be pretty difficult to achieve goals, realize dreams and pursue lasting relationships without the use of effective communication.
Come to think of it, lousy communication is usually the root cause of many of our most dreaded problems! Broken relationships, misunderstandings on work projects, terrible family issues – poor communication is at the core.
So here’s what I propose – why not brush up on our communication skills? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Because pristine communication skills not only benefit your personal and professional relationships, but they help you achieve your wildest of dreams while using less time and effort. And a
lot less drama.
Use these 8 communication tools to become a shape-shifting communicator with clients, coworkers, loved ones and friends.
Welcome to the final installment of Soultiply’s Sexy Soulmate Series!
It’s been quite a ride, eh?
At the beginning of this series, we explored the
basic questions associated with a soulmate relationship
. Then, in
, I showed you how to love yourself in order to share your magnificent love with others. In
, we brainstormed many different ways to meet the love of your life. And now, it’s time to bask in the joy of a soulmate relationship…and keep the love flowin’ for
years to come.
(New to the series? It’s not too late to catch up!)
Part Four: Enjoying & Keeping a Soulmate (that’s this post!)
You’ve found your soulmate… now it’s time to sit back and relax…
Sorry to burst your bubble, but relationships require blissful work and dedication in order to stay strong and healthy. Truly, the journey has only just begun once you find that special someone.
I’ve compiled the 8 most important things to keep in mind when looking to strengthen the love of a soulmate relationship. Use these tips to keep those early-stage butterflies fluttering for a LONG time!
Once you’ve done all the “soul homework” I’ve outlined above, and you’ve reached a place of wholeness and clarity on a personal level, you are ready to share that joy with your soulmate. Here are the top 5 most important points to keep in mind when looking for your soulmate…
It’s the end of May, almost the beginning of June… aaaaaand you know what that means: WEDDING SEASON. If you’ve felt even the slightest twinge of jealousy or nausea from all those beautiful wedding pictures posted on Facebook, filled with romantic smiling couples of people you
spoke to once during high school – then you’ve come to the right place. Instead of looking at romance on a screen, it is YOUR time to experience it firsthand. So long social media- hello soulmate!
This is Part Two of Soultiply’s Sexy Soulmate Series! (I dare you to try to say
three times fast…) The series consists of 4 distinct parts:
Boys and Girls…I’ve just been smitten with the idea of showcasing a Sexy Soulmate Series here on the Soultiply Blog…and now it’s finally here!
Because I must admit, there is nothing I love more than talking about
being in love
. If you know me at all, you will know that I’m a diehard romantic through and through. I was the boy-crazy teenager growing up, the only sibling in my family who considered my latest crush a house-hold dinner conversation (my poor relatives!), and I spent a good amount of time wishing and hoping and praying that I would find my soulmate.
Through a process of trial and error (soulmates don’t always come easy!), I found my ONE and I haven’t looked back since.
Thankfully I have a very understanding and down-to-earth boyfriend, who doesn’t mind if I share all the beautiful details of our meeting and relationship here on Soultiply.
The Sexy Soulmate Series will be broken up into 4 Parts.
Each part will be an in-depth look into the relationship process and the actionable steps you can take to create a lasting relationship. Because people don’t tell you – it’s a journey. There will be ups (and Lord knows you will remember the downs!), but it’s worth it. Once you find your soulmate, you will wonder how your soul managed to live without its other half for so long.