I went through an awkward stage. I think it’s safe to say that we have all spent at least one year of our lives as a gawky version of current selves. My moment came in the heart of fifth grade. I grew much more quickly than my other female classmates,
and boy was I reminded of it
I remember sitting in the cafeteria eating lunch and hearing girls taunt me with the lyrics of Sir Mix-A-Lot’s “Baby Got Back”. Thank God they didn’t understand much more of the song than
“I like big butts and I cannot lie”…
but that was all they needed. They would sing and laugh and look right at me, making a huge scene in front of the entire lunchroom until a teacher would shoo them away.
I remember being frozen to my chair, not wanting to get up until everyone else had left for class, afraid that people would start pointing and laughing at my rear-end again.
And it didn’t stop there.
Ummm…can you say AWKWARD?! Circa 2001.
I remember signing onto AOL instant messenger (my screen name was BroadwayBabe2008, do you remember yours?) and having someone named ‘BroadwayFag2008’ request to talk to me. My naive 7
grade mind accepted their request, and they proceeded to spew nasty words and slurs at me, naming my home address, and threatening to burn down my house.
My best friend had transferred to a different school, and they would make fun of her, reminding me how alone I was without her, reminding me that I had no one left.
And I would go to school the next morning and would sit out in the car with my mom for as LONG as possible, trying to stay away from those hallways that were full of mean glances and feet that would try to dart out and trip me.
I remember working in the front office and having one of the office aides look up the class schedule of a particularly cruel girl, so that I could make sure and plan my route to avoid her in between classes.
my art teacher to let me eat lunch in her classroom, doing anything that I could to avoid sitting in the cafeteria alone.
I remember being really upset and trying to keep my eyes from tearing up one morning as I was practicing my Science Fair speech with my teacher. She could tell something was wrong and she wouldn’t believe my excuses when I said I was fine. Eventually I told her about the online threats and she got the school technology adviser to track the IP addresses of the bullies.
Ends up they were the same girls that sung the mean songs in the school cafeteria years before. Go figure…
I don’t mean to tell these stories to sound depressing. Lord knows my bullying stories are barely the tip of the iceberg compared to some experiences kids endure at school…
But my heart still pounds in my chest whenever I see a picture of the old AOL instant messenger Buddy list.
Whenever the “Baby Got Back” song comes on, most people my age laugh and sing in 90s nostalgia – but I just can’t get myself to dance along.
Over the years I’ve learned to embrace my curvy figure, learned to love it even. But man oh man, did that take a
long. long. time
And that’s the thing. Bullying never really leaves you. If you’ve ever been bullied, those moments are forever crystallized in your mind.
If you are told that something is wrong with you enough times, it’s easy to start to believe it. The bullying begins to live in your mind and it sets up camp in your heart.
And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way.
Fifteen years after being bullied, I’ve had a good amount of time to sit back and reflect on that time in my life. And I’ve learned some very important things…
That no matter what stage you are in your life, you can erase and reverse those thoughts, and defeat the inner-bully that the REAL bully left behind.
We seek to share it with others, we relish in it, we are made of it, and we want more of it. To give and receive love – it’s the best feeling in the world.
But what does love
to you? How do you feel it; how do you show it?
For me, it’s the act of giving and receiving
. I picture it like this: Remember when you were a kid and you would spin your straw REALLY FAST in your chocolate milk until you created a mini tornado in your cup? Love is just like that. It’s giving and receiving in a continuous circle, until you get so caught up in it, that you BECOME it. You realize that you ARE love; A tornado of pure, positive energy.
That idea is the exact inspiration behind the Soultiply logo. A sacred circle. Giving and receiving all wrapped into one.
I just love that idea!
But I find this interesting…when most people are asked,
“What do you love?”
oftentimes they name only
I love my mother.
I love my brand new puppy.
I love my house.
We know the miraculous power of love, that’s a given. So why don’t we automatically extend these feelings to our non-physical ideas and beliefs in just the same way? Why don’t we make more of an effort to give love to our dreams or to our obstacles? What if we loved the things that don’t yet exist with just as much passion as we do our family and friends?
What would become possible?
You know what app I’ve been crushing on lately?
. Have you tried it?
If you love walking down memory lane, this app is pure gold. It goes through your most popular social media accounts and let’s you see what you posted 1 year ago, 2 years ago, and so on… (I have some posts that go back 7 years or more! Depends on how long you’ve been hooked to those precious social media accounts). It’s a beautiful little reminder of our life events and what we’ve chosen to share with our friends and followers.
But there are days when a reminder from the past can sting. When the present feels all too real.
And if you are currently embarking on a weight loss or body transformation journey, there’s nothing like looking at old pictures to stir up some unwanted emotions.
But it’s not worth our time and energy to get sucked into the past, to battle the comparisons of ourselves, or to even fathom the thought that these pictures are any sort of indicator of our worth.
So instead, I’ve developed two promises to myself, two main feelings that I refuse to feel when looking at pictures, and I hope by the end of this post, you’ll pledge the same.
Have you ever felt the real world give you a major SLAP IN THE FACE?
Owwww. Well… that hurt.
You know what I’m talking about – we’ve all had moments where our expectations about life were just blown out of the water, everything we thought to be true crumbled in a million little pieces and scattered off into the wind, never to be seen again…
For me, that moment came after college. It was the moment that I realized your career takes up a freakin’ LARGE AMOUNT OF YOUR LIFE.
In college – going to class, hanging with friends, studying for tests, going out to parties – these were all the activities that comprised a normal day. Life was busy, but everything was exciting and new.
I figured that when I graduated and started work, it would feel the same way, but instead of class it would be my place of employment. Not all that different, right?
So very wrong.
Staying in one building with the same people for 8…10… or 12 (sometimes longer!) hours a day turned out to be
like class. There are no mid-day naps. There’s rarely a change of pace. All of the sudden, you go home and realize that you only really have 4 hours or so until you
start it all again
. And even when you DO get home, it’s hard to keep all that work stuff from flooding your brain. There’s no off switch! Sometimes, you even DREAM about work in your sleep! Weekends go by too fast. There are no semesters to count the time. If you are unhappy in your career, this realization can feel like being hit over the head with a ton of bricks.
I learned EARLY on that if you spend the majority of your life at work, you better devote that time to a career that makes you happy.
Take a look at these 9 steps to finding happiness within your career, and start making those hours count!
Welcome to the final installment of Soultiply’s Sexy Soulmate Series!
It’s been quite a ride, eh?
At the beginning of this series, we explored the
basic questions associated with a soulmate relationship
. Then, in
, I showed you how to love yourself in order to share your magnificent love with others. In
, we brainstormed many different ways to meet the love of your life. And now, it’s time to bask in the joy of a soulmate relationship…and keep the love flowin’ for
years to come.
(New to the series? It’s not too late to catch up!)
Part Four: Enjoying & Keeping a Soulmate (that’s this post!)
You’ve found your soulmate… now it’s time to sit back and relax…
Sorry to burst your bubble, but relationships require blissful work and dedication in order to stay strong and healthy. Truly, the journey has only just begun once you find that special someone.
I’ve compiled the 8 most important things to keep in mind when looking to strengthen the love of a soulmate relationship. Use these tips to keep those early-stage butterflies fluttering for a LONG time!
Once you’ve done all the “soul homework” I’ve outlined above, and you’ve reached a place of wholeness and clarity on a personal level, you are ready to share that joy with your soulmate. Here are the top 5 most important points to keep in mind when looking for your soulmate…
It’s the end of May, almost the beginning of June… aaaaaand you know what that means: WEDDING SEASON. If you’ve felt even the slightest twinge of jealousy or nausea from all those beautiful wedding pictures posted on Facebook, filled with romantic smiling couples of people you
spoke to once during high school – then you’ve come to the right place. Instead of looking at romance on a screen, it is YOUR time to experience it firsthand. So long social media- hello soulmate!
This is Part Two of Soultiply’s Sexy Soulmate Series! (I dare you to try to say
three times fast…) The series consists of 4 distinct parts:
Boys and Girls…I’ve just been smitten with the idea of showcasing a Sexy Soulmate Series here on the Soultiply Blog…and now it’s finally here!
Because I must admit, there is nothing I love more than talking about
being in love
. If you know me at all, you will know that I’m a diehard romantic through and through. I was the boy-crazy teenager growing up, the only sibling in my family who considered my latest crush a house-hold dinner conversation (my poor relatives!), and I spent a good amount of time wishing and hoping and praying that I would find my soulmate.
Through a process of trial and error (soulmates don’t always come easy!), I found my ONE and I haven’t looked back since.
Thankfully I have a very understanding and down-to-earth boyfriend, who doesn’t mind if I share all the beautiful details of our meeting and relationship here on Soultiply.
The Sexy Soulmate Series will be broken up into 4 Parts.
Each part will be an in-depth look into the relationship process and the actionable steps you can take to create a lasting relationship. Because people don’t tell you – it’s a journey. There will be ups (and Lord knows you will remember the downs!), but it’s worth it. Once you find your soulmate, you will wonder how your soul managed to live without its other half for so long.
I started this out of love. I thought maybe there would be some fancier way to describe why I’ve created Soultiply, but that’s it. THAT’S the real reason. This probably just looks like a first post on yet
blog, but to me it’s been 2 months of work in the making (and merely a daydream for years before that!). I’m so excited to finally share Soultiply with you! Because Soultiply was nothing before you and will be nothing without you. And that explains why I started this out of love – almost exclusively out of love for the people that visit Soultiply looking to share BIG IDEAS and how to live a more purposeful, joy-filled life.