For a young professional, oftentimes your career is your heart and soul. So think of an Observer friendship as the blood that keeps the heart thumpin’ and pumpin’! Let’s delve deep into what it means to be a great friend and business Observer…
You can either A) Desperately try to control everything and never ask for help from others (any of my control freaks relate?? Why do we do this to ourselves?! B) Work with random people who have no sense of your vision, or C) Find people who inspire us, understand our dream language, and help us reach those goals while enjoying the process along the way.
I’ll take C – please and thank you!
And oftentimes, the people that fit the bill ALREADY EXIST in your life.
They are right in front of your nose for crying out loud!
They are your best friends!
But sometimes navigating the blurry line between personal and business relationships can be a difficult task, so in this series we are looking at the top 4 archetypes of personal to business relationships, and the best ways to transition them for professional success. We will take a look at:
For the past several months or so, I’ve made a huge effort to be more of a social person.
I’m one of those gals who is perfectly happy with spending the evening in reading a book or writing a blog post, wearing my wool socks and not a spot of makeup. I despise the bar scene and it’s like pulling teeth to get me to go out on a Saturday night. (Why do I live in NYC again!?) I swear, when I get married, I honestly think my Bachelorette party will consist of a crafting circle and loads of great wine. That’s just who I am!
Needless to say, my friends are not often pleased with my anti-social tendencies.
But I love my friends, and those relationships mean the world to me. You won’t hear me ever discount the joys of a proper work/life balance; I’ll always have time for my buddies.
But now that I run my own business, many of these friendships have taken on new meaning. And I’ll admit, some for the better…and a
for the worse.
But it got me thinking, where is the fine line between a personal and business friendship? Is it possible to have both at the same time? And if so, how can you balance the two without jeopardizing your existing relationships along the way?
For the next four days, I’m going to delve deep into 4 of the most prevalent personal-friendship-to-business-relationship types out there. You’ve met these people – hell, you might BE these people! We’ll meet…
Do you ever look back on your schooling and think, “Now why in the world did they not offer a class on that?!”
Where was the elective on Time Management? I know I could have used a few lessons about Healing from Heartbreak. And most of all, there should have been a class about effective communication. Because Lord knows we use that skill EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Seriously, when are we NOT communicating? Sometimes through our actions, mostly through our words…communication drives nearly everything we do. It would be pretty difficult to achieve goals, realize dreams and pursue lasting relationships without the use of effective communication.
Come to think of it, lousy communication is usually the root cause of many of our most dreaded problems! Broken relationships, misunderstandings on work projects, terrible family issues – poor communication is at the core.
So here’s what I propose – why not brush up on our communication skills? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Because pristine communication skills not only benefit your personal and professional relationships, but they help you achieve your wildest of dreams while using less time and effort. And a
lot less drama.
Use these 8 communication tools to become a shape-shifting communicator with clients, coworkers, loved ones and friends.
Have you ever felt the real world give you a major SLAP IN THE FACE?
Owwww. Well… that hurt.
You know what I’m talking about – we’ve all had moments where our expectations about life were just blown out of the water, everything we thought to be true crumbled in a million little pieces and scattered off into the wind, never to be seen again…
For me, that moment came after college. It was the moment that I realized your career takes up a freakin’ LARGE AMOUNT OF YOUR LIFE.
In college – going to class, hanging with friends, studying for tests, going out to parties – these were all the activities that comprised a normal day. Life was busy, but everything was exciting and new.
I figured that when I graduated and started work, it would feel the same way, but instead of class it would be my place of employment. Not all that different, right?
So very wrong.
Staying in one building with the same people for 8…10… or 12 (sometimes longer!) hours a day turned out to be
like class. There are no mid-day naps. There’s rarely a change of pace. All of the sudden, you go home and realize that you only really have 4 hours or so until you
start it all again
. And even when you DO get home, it’s hard to keep all that work stuff from flooding your brain. There’s no off switch! Sometimes, you even DREAM about work in your sleep! Weekends go by too fast. There are no semesters to count the time. If you are unhappy in your career, this realization can feel like being hit over the head with a ton of bricks.
I learned EARLY on that if you spend the majority of your life at work, you better devote that time to a career that makes you happy.
Take a look at these 9 steps to finding happiness within your career, and start making those hours count!
Last year I went to Walt Disney World and wore my visor and bright, white tennis shoes with pride.
During high school, every Spirit Week we had a dress up day where everyone wore their tackiest outfit. I would go ALLLL out – pig tails, mismatching clothes, crazy makeup, fanny pack and high-waisted pants. I would nervously sit in the car with my mother before school started, watching the kids go in and out of the building…and not a SINGLE ONE would be dressed for the occasion. My eyes would well up in tears…how could I possibly go to class looking like this if no one else dressed up too?! Did everyone forget it was Tacky Day over the weekend?! I was distraught. Inevitably someone would dress up and I wouldn’t feel as bad.
Sometimes it’s tough to be tacky.
But that’s not the type of tacky I’m talking about right now. Tacky stands for much more than outdated hairstyles and gaudy jewelry. After reading this post, you’ll be proud to call yourself tacky too.
Tacky stands for
You can breathe a sigh of relief…it’s now cool to be tacky!
When you are tacky, you validate others. You give the people around you a voice, a way to express themselves and be heard. Give everyone you meet the time, attention, care & kindness they deserve…and that includes you too! Be tacky and you can create miracles.
Welcome to the final installment of Soultiply’s Sexy Soulmate Series!
It’s been quite a ride, eh?
At the beginning of this series, we explored the
basic questions associated with a soulmate relationship
. Then, in
, I showed you how to love yourself in order to share your magnificent love with others. In
, we brainstormed many different ways to meet the love of your life. And now, it’s time to bask in the joy of a soulmate relationship…and keep the love flowin’ for
years to come.
(New to the series? It’s not too late to catch up!)
Part Four: Enjoying & Keeping a Soulmate (that’s this post!)
You’ve found your soulmate… now it’s time to sit back and relax…
Sorry to burst your bubble, but relationships require blissful work and dedication in order to stay strong and healthy. Truly, the journey has only just begun once you find that special someone.
I’ve compiled the 8 most important things to keep in mind when looking to strengthen the love of a soulmate relationship. Use these tips to keep those early-stage butterflies fluttering for a LONG time!
Once you’ve done all the “soul homework” I’ve outlined above, and you’ve reached a place of wholeness and clarity on a personal level, you are ready to share that joy with your soulmate. Here are the top 5 most important points to keep in mind when looking for your soulmate…