It’s seriously like pulling teeth to get me to decide on a restaurant when I go out on the weekend.
Just ask my poor boyfriend
– I over-analyze, I change my mind, I weigh the pros and cons, I have to visualize myself tasting the food at each restaurant (Like, you think I’m kidding, but I’m not!)…
And all that stuff is great if, you know, picking a restaurant was a life or death decision. But what to wear in the morning? Or what to pack for lunch? NOT such a big deal.
Sometimes it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the opportunities and choices presented to us on a daily basis.
It feels like we are caught in a twister of swirling options and we somehow have to grasp for the right choice surrounded by this very confusing fog.
But what if we could learn to fully harness the power of our choices to grow in whichever direction
Imagine how much more time you could save in the morning alone! Those are precious minutes you could be sleeping in, amiright?
I’ve learned that powerful, dream-creating people revel in their ability to take action and make soul-filled and deliberate choices.
So today I’m excited to teach you how to develop a plan to conquer choice overwhelm once and for all. No more enie-meenie-miney-moe. If you find yourself freezing up or freaking out over the choices you need to make, these next two posts will share with you my surefire methods for making choices that resonate with your soul.
I’m sure it needs no introduction, but the
Humans of New York blog
kicks some serious booty. It reminds us of our fragile humanity, how everyone has a story, and how when it all comes down to it – we fundamentally want to help one another.
It’s the happiest place on the internet.
And what’s more than that – it’s a blog that has seriously changed lives.
Take, for instance, the current saga centered around a young man named Vidal. I won’t get into all the incredible details, (
you can find them here
– and I urge you to do so!) but Vidal is a young man that Brandon (the founder of Humans of New York) met on a street in Brownsville, Brooklyn. Brandon asked him who the most influential person has been in his life, and he mentioned his school principal, Mrs. Lopez. To make a very long and incredible story short, Humans of New York was able to raise
over a million dollars
for Mrs. Lopez’s school, send Vidal on scholarship to college, and inspire a nation. In fact, Vidal & Mrs. Lopez recently had the opportunity to visit the White House and meet President Obama! And to think that all this powerful change was initiated by a principal that dedicated her life to creating scholars; that the catalyst for this greatness was an intelligent young man, honoring the individual who taught him that he mattered.
I dare you to look through these posts and not cry tears of joy.
It’s a very New York City mindset to think that you can do it alone.
We all float around this city in our own little bubbles, eyes glued to our cell phones, trash and slushy snow biting at our feet. It’s easy to feel like you are alone in this winter dystopia, especially when the subway is crowded, rent is due, and you have
no clue what you want to do with your life
But if you manage to look up for a second, to recognize the warm bodies around you, and to acknowledge the supportive people who stand by you no matter what – your whole life can change.
Wow, I just can’t believe it. Can someone send me a virtual pinch and wake me up from this dream?
Soultiply turns 1 year old today and I couldn’t be prouder!
To think that a year ago today, I was sitting in that grimy subway car, trying to juggle 3 different jobs, when I had an idea that shook my world. One moment I was floundering,
wondering what I was going to do with my life
, and the next I was furiously scribbling down ideas for my newest, passion-filled endeavor. (You can find the full story
.) That’s all it takes – one moment of pure inspiration. The rest is easy; the rest you can handle. That’s why they say, “the rest is history”…
I hope you’ve grown a lot this past year and I hope that Soultiply was a part of your journey. Lord knows I’ve grown a tremendous amount since I started Soultiply – I hardly recognize the person that I was merely a year ago today.
This year has been filled with ups and downs,
times of stillness
, and times of triumph. If anyone would have told me how difficult it would be to design, build, and maintain an online community, I probably would have chosen to curl up with my favorite blanket and take a nap instead!
I’ve received emails, texts, and Facebook messages full of positive encouragement and notes of gratitude for the lessons and stories that I’ve featured here on the blog. And I want you to know that
every single message
brings me the absolute greatest amount of happiness imaginable. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. You guys sure know how to make me smile!
And although I look back at this year with gratitude and
, I also realize that this is just the beginning. I know because I’ve only written 50 of the 493 blog post ideas that I have stored on my hard drive. As of today, I’ve only crossed off 62 of the 849 items I have on my Soultiply MASTER TO-DO LIST.
Ain’t that MASTER PLAN a beauty?!
This year has only tickled the surface of my life’s work. And without you reading this right now, none of this work would mean a thing. And for that, I am
Although the Soultiply blog officially launched late March of 2014, the
of Soultiply celebrates its birthday today.
And what better way to celebrate than with our 50
(I swear I didn’t even plan it that way…we just happened to hit 50 posts on our 1st anniversary!
The Universe provides!
So to celebrate, I want to take a look at the
top 5 blog posts
from the past year and give you the behind-the-scenes scoop on it all.
Sometimes us drama queens can get SO caught up in our negative thoughts, that we end up making life harder for ourselves in the process. You feel like ALL you can do is complain, moan and worry about something, only to realize that the simple solution was right in front of your nose the entire time.
The same exact thing can happen to the role that
plays in our lives.
We all want to be happy, right? The pursuit of happiness is a lifelong goal, and many of us would do just about anything to get a glimpse of it.
But that’s the thing – the “pursuit of happiness” isn’t a pursuit at all! I challenge you to retreat from happiness, starting today.
Because Happiness has been in front of your nose this entire time.
Do you remember reading the book
in Elementary School? Besides the fact that my 10 year-old-self was proud of reading a chapter book, I fell in love with this story.
It was about a boy who came up with a new word for “pen”, and he managed to convince a bunch of people to start using his new word instead. As a young writing nerd, I thought that this idea was just the coolest thing
And as I’ve grown older, I’m continually fascinated by words and their meaning.
And I realized over time that I couldn’t find a way to describe the type of incredible change I longed to create in the world. I learned that not only did I want to fulfill my dharma and bring my dreams into reality, but I wanted to support others on their personal journeys as well. I wanted to create exponential dreaming. I wanted to ignite explosive positivity and action that would seep into the lives of thousands of people. But I didn’t have a way to describe this incredible thought in my mind.
I’ve been watching a lot of
lately. It’s a Showtime TV series that centers on a blood splatter analyst who leads a secret life as a serial killer.
I will admit, this show
stresses me out
It’s not that I’m afraid for Dexter (I mean, his name is the title of the show – I doubt they are going to kill him off any time soon…well, wait
that was purely a guess
… I’m only on the 4th season… oh no… don’t give it away!
Dexter be careful!
I’m stressed because Dexter is AWFUL at organizing his life. I don’t worry about his crimes… I get stressed when he leaves his child with the nanny for too long. I get stressed when he doesn’t show up to work on time because he was off riding in his boat. Mainly, I get stressed because Dexter has tried to divide his life into perfect little pieces (no pun intended…
), and he finds his life constantly crashing down around him.
Dexter, buddy, can’t you see the full picture!?
Which makes me think, don’t we all try to do the same? We compartmentalize our lives on a daily basis. We have our family, our friends, our romantic partners, our career, our personal development, our homes and our health. We have these segments in our lives that we must juggle, and sometimes it’s easier to divide them into separate entities. Sometimes it
easier to handle them that way.
But just like Dexter, therein lies a fatal flaw. Here’s why segmenting your life could cost you your happiness
I’ve never traveled the world. In fact, I’ve never even ventured outside the United States. I know, it’s a little embarrassing to say out loud.
But thank God for the internet and all the technology that allows us to connect worldwide each and every day.
And it just makes me think…THERE IS SO MUCH OUT THERE IN THIS WORLD.
Millions of people are living out their moments in time every day. By that fact alone, we are all so incredibly connected.
What series of events had to happen for you to find yourself reading this post, on this website? Every choice you made today has led to this very moment. Take a deep breathe and soak it in. This is
incredible life to live.
Now that’s what I call a WHOA moment.
And boy oh boy, do I live for those moments!
Whoa moments can be best described as those periods in time where your mind can briefly comprehend our place in the grand universe. Those moments of awe while overlooking the Grand Canyon. I’ll never forget the time when I was reading
and for a brief smidgen of a moment, I was able to wrap my mind around the fact that time is relative and all that exists is the present moment. No, I wasn’t high on drugs. I was running on a treadmill, to be exact. But I’ll never forget that WHOA moment for as long as I live.
Wait But Why just published a
about “whoa moments” and how they connect us to our highest selves. I strive to be in a state of awe, each and every day. It’s all just too beautiful to fully comprehend.
But WHOA moments are only little blips in time. And once they pass, the reality of our world becomes glaringly apparent.
For example, I’m not a fan of the nightly news. In fact, it’s probably the most depressing thing you could watch on television. I make an effort to stay informed on current events, but I don’t let them consume me. I choose to send a prayer out to those in need, and focus on
deflecting that negative energy
I know why news outlets exist. They aim to inform, but ratings always seem to win in the end. An anchor makes a hurtful sexist or racist remark, and the video goes viral. Their audience craves staggering numbers and incredible circumstances.
But what if we all chose to focus on