We seek to share it with others, we relish in it, we are made of it, and we want more of it. To give and receive love – it’s the best feeling in the world.
But what does love
to you? How do you feel it; how do you show it?
For me, it’s the act of giving and receiving
. I picture it like this: Remember when you were a kid and you would spin your straw REALLY FAST in your chocolate milk until you created a mini tornado in your cup? Love is just like that. It’s giving and receiving in a continuous circle, until you get so caught up in it, that you BECOME it. You realize that you ARE love; A tornado of pure, positive energy.
That idea is the exact inspiration behind the Soultiply logo. A sacred circle. Giving and receiving all wrapped into one.
I just love that idea!
But I find this interesting…when most people are asked,
“What do you love?”
oftentimes they name only
I love my mother.
I love my brand new puppy.
I love my house.
We know the miraculous power of love, that’s a given. So why don’t we automatically extend these feelings to our non-physical ideas and beliefs in just the same way? Why don’t we make more of an effort to give love to our dreams or to our obstacles? What if we loved the things that don’t yet exist with just as much passion as we do our family and friends?
What would become possible?
It’s that time of the year again, folks. People are starting to get the sniffles.
I was stuck at home for two days this past week fighting off a nasty cold myself.
And although I would have much rather spent that time getting some real work done, there
one tiny silver lining to a sick day stuck at home. As I was cuddled up with 4 different blankets (no joke!), and a nose to rival Rudolphs’, I couldn’t help but realize how it takes catching a no-good virus to get me to slow down and rest a bit.
Sometimes, when you have a low-grade fever and absolutely ZERO energy, you can experience a serene sense of calm that’s hard to achieve during the hustle and bustle of a normal day. The other things just don’t seem to matter – all you are focused on is resting and feeling your best again. I always feel extremely connected to my body and spirit when I feel ill, my mind just isn’t up to the task of dealing with the usual worry and chatter.
In fact, I remember
back in my acting days
, I would give some of my best performances when I had a fever. I just didn’t CARE how I was doing, so the performance was natural and uninhabited.
But living a direct and simple life doesn’t have to be a byproduct of catching a cold. In fact, it might be one of the greatest things we can do to help us stay healthy, sane, and focused on the things that matter most.
You know what app I’ve been crushing on lately?
. Have you tried it?
If you love walking down memory lane, this app is pure gold. It goes through your most popular social media accounts and let’s you see what you posted 1 year ago, 2 years ago, and so on… (I have some posts that go back 7 years or more! Depends on how long you’ve been hooked to those precious social media accounts). It’s a beautiful little reminder of our life events and what we’ve chosen to share with our friends and followers.
But there are days when a reminder from the past can sting. When the present feels all too real.
And if you are currently embarking on a weight loss or body transformation journey, there’s nothing like looking at old pictures to stir up some unwanted emotions.
But it’s not worth our time and energy to get sucked into the past, to battle the comparisons of ourselves, or to even fathom the thought that these pictures are any sort of indicator of our worth.
So instead, I’ve developed two promises to myself, two main feelings that I refuse to feel when looking at pictures, and I hope by the end of this post, you’ll pledge the same.
Have you had an item collecting dust on your to-do list for quite some time?
Honestly, I think there are a few items on mine that have been sitting there for weeks, maybe even months.
Sometimes you get to an item on your to-do list and it’s hard not to look like a deer caught in headlights. You stare at it. And stare at it. And you break out into a cold sweat and stare at it some more.
Because the next task on your to-do list is SO monumental, SO huge and important, that you have no idea how to make it happen.
And it’s easy to get uncomfortable and discouraged, and want to take a nap instead, or watch reruns of Full House, or any number of mindless, “filler” activities that pass the time, allowing yourself to procrastinate on your dreams.
And then, months from now, when you are
feeling stuck, you start to feel dejected because you are not seeing actual progress and your dream still feels SO FAR AWAY.
Daydreaming is nice, but living a dream feels SO MUCH BETTER.
I’ve been there my friend.
The guilt that manifests from inaction use to
me. I felt like I was wasting time, like precious time was slipping away from me every moment I spent feeling lost on how to accomplish my dreams.
And that’s when it hit me.
Every time I pull up my calendar, or add a new thing to my to-do list, I’m essentially searching for the most effective use of my TIME. I was making the decision on how I wanted to spend my MOMENTS on earth.
Time is just a series of moments.
Something can take a year to accomplish or a minute – but no matter the time frame, they are both comprised of singular moments, one after one, that continue to add up until the project is complete.
And as long as you fill each moment to the brim with inspired activity, you will start to see change.
Decades or years sound very scary sometimes. But moments – those are
We can handle moments.
In order to create the change you crave in your life, you must break down every big dream into MANAGEABLE MOMENTS.
For a young professional, oftentimes your career is your heart and soul. So think of an Observer friendship as the blood that keeps the heart thumpin’ and pumpin’! Let’s delve deep into what it means to be a great friend and business Observer…
For the past several months or so, I’ve made a huge effort to be more of a social person.
I’m one of those gals who is perfectly happy with spending the evening in reading a book or writing a blog post, wearing my wool socks and not a spot of makeup. I despise the bar scene and it’s like pulling teeth to get me to go out on a Saturday night. (Why do I live in NYC again!?) I swear, when I get married, I honestly think my Bachelorette party will consist of a crafting circle and loads of great wine. That’s just who I am!
Needless to say, my friends are not often pleased with my anti-social tendencies.
But I love my friends, and those relationships mean the world to me. You won’t hear me ever discount the joys of a proper work/life balance; I’ll always have time for my buddies.
But now that I run my own business, many of these friendships have taken on new meaning. And I’ll admit, some for the better…and a
for the worse.
But it got me thinking, where is the fine line between a personal and business friendship? Is it possible to have both at the same time? And if so, how can you balance the two without jeopardizing your existing relationships along the way?
For the next four days, I’m going to delve deep into 4 of the most prevalent personal-friendship-to-business-relationship types out there. You’ve met these people – hell, you might BE these people! We’ll meet…
Well, I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night…soooo…
Well, I didn’t have very much time to prepare…soooo…
Well, I wasn’t really invested in this idea
We dish these lines out like they are candy on Halloween.
The moment we come in contact with anything that we truly want, anything that makes us start shakin’ in our boots, anything that makes our hearts start to pound with excitement – we freak. We start to formulate the excuses that will buffer ourselves against the possibility of failure.
We can be afraid to put our name on our own work, afraid to say “This is my love, my life, my passion. THIS IS THE BEST I CAN DO AND I AM PROUD OF IT.”
Has this ever happened to you? Lord knows it used to happen to me.
During high school, I craved Thursday mornings. While most kids were pressing the snooze button on their alarm clocks, I was alert and at school long before the first bell would ring. A few friends of mine started a Yoga Club and were desperate for new members – so I decided to give it a try. They recruited a lovely local yoga teacher to donate her time for our weekly sessions, and we all would pile into the stinky high school wrestling room for class. The lights were dim, the music was soft, and all the stress of college applications and high school drama seemed to just melt away.
But what I remember the most was the incredible meditation time at the end of each session. I was raised in a southern Catholic household and didn’t have an inkling about meditation or anything truly spiritual. I was entirely disconnected from my body and my own sense of self, so this yoga and meditation sequence was truly transcendental. I felt like I came alive during those morning sessions and I would carry those peaceful feelings with me throughout the rest of the day.
Fast forward 8 years and I still very much consider myself a beginner when it comes to meditation.
I’ll meditate for 15-20 minutes once a week or so, but most of the time I find my mind start to wander and I begin thinking about how old the avocados are in my fridge, or how cute that YouTube video was with that baby and puppy.
The fast pace of New York City seems to leave my nerves frazzled and my head spinning; I need meditation
more than ever!
So I thought it would be a neat experiment to try some different types of meditation and share my findings. Whether you are brand new to meditation, or you want to spice up your beginner routine, here are my honest opinions about some basic meditation techniques.
Each technique will be rated in 4 different categories:
Feel Good Factor
(how much of an impact it had on my mood and general wellbeing),
(how long I was able to maintain a heightened sense of inner-peace after the meditation), and
. Each category will be rated on a scale of 0-10.
Meditation allows us to connect to our source, diffuse our stress and revive our souls. Although meditation can clear our minds, it even more importantly allows us to access our true inspiration.
So don’t fret – check out the guide below to see what type of meditation practice might be right for you.
If you are new to this journey – let me fill you in. This is a series on the Soultiply Blog that focuses purely on the motivation to help you achieve your body related goals, especially in regards to weight loss. This Quest will hold your hand, cheer with you, cry with you, and give you a big ole’ pat on the back when you accomplish your dreams. We may wrinkle our nose at vegetables or watch Netflix rather than workout, but the hardest part of pushing our physical limits is the motivation to continue towards results.
Today is the perfect day to write the next post for the Quest because it’s a very special milestone for me…I’ve lost over 11 pounds! I woke up and hopped on the scale and saw a number that I haven’t seen in over two years. I am extremely overjoyed, but not surprised; I know in my heart that this time has been different.
Why is this time different?
Because when I first started, I sat down with myself and got HONEST. I thought, “What has kept me from success in the past? What always seems to trip me up and get in the way?”
It was a little discouraging, to recount past failures and own up to my mistakes. But I knew that what I had done to develop healthy habits in the past
work – so in order to see weight loss results, I would have to try something different.
Ultimately, after much thought, I came to some solid conclusions. For me, it boiled down to two things.
Yesterday afternoon I sat down at my computer for some well-deserved Soultiply time.
I had woken up, made my smoothie, went to the gym to workout with my lovely boyfriend, (Friends at home still following the
Mind, Body & Soultiply Quest
? I hope you are ready for some healthy motivation!) showered and was ready to work.
But the moment I sat down to crank out some serious inspired writing, I felt myself coming up short. I knew what I wanted to talk about, but it felt like fatigue was barreling over me like a runaway train. My mind was spinning; I just couldn’t concentrate, let alone come up with any worthwhile or helpful ideas. So I took a nap instead, and ended up feeling crabby for the rest of the day, frustrated that I couldn’t use my scarce, uninterrupted spare time to create something wondrous and helpful for my Soultiply readers.
Sleep, rest, and relaxation just seem so secondary when it comes to the amazing work that I want to share with the world, all the goals that I want to accomplish, all the people that I want to help. Who needs all the other stuff when you have
to look forward to every day?!
But that’s where I was VERY wrong, my friends.
Because I woke up this morning and I
felt caught in a creative rut. None of the whining and guilt of last night helped remove ANY of that crap.
But this time, I embraced the feeling (instead of moping around and rejecting it) and I thought, “What can I do to get around this? What do I, Brittany Ritcher, NEED today?”
And the answer popped into my brain the very moment
that I allowed it
– I needed to enjoy some nature, go on a nice walk through the park, and take some well-deserved downtime.
And I did exactly that.
I rounded up the
“Let’s take a walk through Prospect Park!”
He had never been before and it had been 5 years since I had ventured to the area, so we packed up our things and had an impromptu, adventurous day.
We saw rolling hills, dogs splashing around in the lake, small children running through the grass and enjoying the sunshine. We both found a shady spot next to a creek to relax for an hour (seriously, it didn’t even feel like the city!) and it was exactly what the doctor ordered. I felt inspired and rejuvenated upon my return.
I think as many young professionals and burgeoning entrepreneurs might relate to, it can be hard to find a stopping point in regards to our careers.
When your success is up to you, there is ALWAYS more work to be done and never enough time to do it. Especially when you are young and devoid of family responsibility, your free time is entirely up to you and your dreams are just an arm’s length away.
I remember back when I was acting
, it was always so difficult for me to find a good stopping point, because there was always another audition that I could submit for, or more preparation that I could do for my character.
In fact, even now, the more I work on a project and feel inspired, the more new ideas I seem to come up with… I may cross off one thing from my to-do list, but I end up adding 3 more at the same time!
Trust me, these are delicious problems to have and I hope you have them too. But the real trick is finding the balance to stay on pace and keep your momentum, but without stumbling into the rut of good ole’ burnout.
Over-achievers oftentimes seem like they have it all figured out, but inside they may feel like their accomplishments are never enough.
Anyone else can relate?
Maybe you were the kid in school that none of your teachers worried about because they knew you were smart and could handle it. (You remember the days? Getting good grades because YOU wanted to, not because anyone was twisting your arm about it.) Maybe you try to express your frustration or doubts to others, but they scoff at you because they think it’s silly that someone as successful as you would have any worries about your future.
That’s a lot to handle alone. I want to give you the gift that can oftentimes be hard to give to yourself. I want you to stop, take a breath, and soak in the
feeling of accomplishment.
First, what does it truly mean to feel accomplished?
For me, it’s when I recognize that
I have made progress on something worthwhile
. It’s hard to feel accomplished when you do something that you don’t care about, or something that you think is a waste of time. No, feeling accomplished comes when you conquer (or at least make progress) on something that sits near and dear to your heart, or something that is important to you and your ability to keep doing your best.
So here are 5 of my most tried-and-true ways to tap into your sense of accomplishment in order to give yourself the power you need to keep moving forward.